{"id":1959,"date":"1996-05-01T19:31:16","date_gmt":"1996-05-01T19:31:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.brunomedicina.com\/1996\/05\/01\/relatii-interpersonale-de-succes\/"},"modified":"2026-05-21T21:31:37","modified_gmt":"2026-05-21T21:31:37","slug":"relatii-interpersonale-de-succes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.brunomedicina.com\/ro\/1996\/05\/01\/relatii-interpersonale-de-succes\/","title":{"rendered":"Rela\u021bii interpersonale de succes"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1\">\n#top .av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1{\npadding-bottom:10px;\nfont-size:3vw;\n}\nbody .av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 .av-special-heading-tag .heading-char{\nfont-size:25px;\n}\n#top #wrap_all .av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 .av-special-heading-tag{\nfont-size:3vw;\n}\n.av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 .av-subheading{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 990px){ \n#top #wrap_all .av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 .av-special-heading-tag{\nfont-size:46px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top #wrap_all .av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 .av-special-heading-tag{\nfont-size:46px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top #wrap_all .av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 .av-special-heading-tag{\nfont-size:46px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top #wrap_all .av-special-heading.av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 .av-special-heading-tag{\nfont-size:46px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='av-special-heading av-mohlflpk-fefc92f17abdedd56b0c1f101787ccb1 av-special-heading-h2 blockquote modern-quote  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_textblock  avia-builder-el-first  av-inherit-size'><h2 class='av-special-heading-tag '  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Rela\u021bii interpersonale de succes<\/h2><div class=\"special-heading-border\"><div class=\"special-heading-inner-border\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-mohlgu0z-4135fe22df1d53295f6a1696972146f3\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-mohlgu0z-4135fe22df1d53295f6a1696972146f3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:17px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-mohlgu0z-4135fe22df1d53295f6a1696972146f3 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-362 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/www.brunomedicina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/relationships.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"440\" height=\"311\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.brunomedicina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/relationships.jpg 640w, https:\/\/www.brunomedicina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/relationships-300x212.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.brunomedicina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/relationships-260x185.jpg 260w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 440px) 100vw, 440px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201e\u00cemi pare r\u0103u, dar nu aud ce spui.<\/em><br \/>\n<em> Ceea ce e\u0219ti \u0219i ceea ce faci vorbesc mult mai tare.\u201d<\/em><br \/>\n<em> (R.W. Emerson)<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201eDac\u0103 faci ceea ce ai f\u0103cut \u00eentotdeauna, vei ob\u021bine ceea ce ai ob\u021binut \u00eentotdeauna.\u201d<\/em><br \/>\n<em> (A. Robbins)<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201eA face acela\u0219i lucru iar \u0219i iar \u0219i a te a\u0219tepta la rezultate diferite este primul semn de nebunie.\u201d<\/em><br \/>\n<em> (corolar al afirma\u021biei anterioare)<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201e\u00cenainte s\u0103 deschizi gura, asigur\u0103-te c\u0103 \u021bi-ai pornit creierul.\u201d<\/em><br \/>\n<em> (din \u00een\u021belepciunea tehnologic\u0103)<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201eEste mai bine s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i t\u0103cut \u0219i s\u0103 pari prost dec\u00e2t s\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eendep\u0103rtezi orice \u00eendoial\u0103.\u201d<\/em><br \/>\n<em> (din \u00een\u021belepciunea popular\u0103)<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>Am vrut s\u0103 \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219esc aici c\u00e2teva aforisme celebre, care pot arunca mai mult\u0103 lumin\u0103 dec\u00e2t o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de c\u0103r\u021bi, deoarece, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 faptul c\u0103 vom \u00eencheia studiul nostru despre Analiza Tranzac\u021bional\u0103, \u00een acest articol vom reexamina comunicarea dintr-o perspectiv\u0103 specific\u0103. Am men\u021bionat c\u0103 voi oferi c\u00e2teva sfaturi despre cum s\u0103 gestiona\u021bi situa\u021biile create de \u201ejocurile psihologice\u201d, dar acest lucru ar dep\u0103\u0219i cu mult spa\u021biul de care dispun; re\u021bine\u021bi c\u0103 \u00eentregul aspect terapeutic al Analizei Tranzac\u021bionale se ocup\u0103 tocmai de acest subiect.<br \/>\nTocmai de aceea, \u00een loc s\u0103 v\u0103 ofer o list\u0103 plictisitoare de jocuri cu poten\u021biale \u201edezavantaje\u201d, prefer s\u0103 revin la principiile de baz\u0103 ale comunic\u0103rii eficiente \u0219i s\u0103 m\u0103 concentrez pe ceea ce este cel mai potrivit de f\u0103cut, \u021bin\u00e2nd cont de ceea ce s-a discutat \u00een articolele recente.<\/p>\n<h2>Modelul cibernetic al comunic\u0103rii eficiente<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>Cititorii mai aten\u021bi \u00ee\u0219i vor aminti c\u0103, \u00een num\u0103rul din octombrie, am scris despre obiective \u0219i despre cea mai eficient\u0103 modalitate de a le stabili \u0219i urm\u0103ri. \u00cen acela\u0219i articol, am men\u021bionat modelul cibernetic ca fiind cel mai potrivit din punct de vedere al eficien\u021bei. V\u0103 reamintesc acest lucru pentru a nu fi nevoi\u021bi s\u0103 r\u0103sfoi\u021bi colec\u021bia \u201eIdei de afaceri\u201d:<br \/>\n\u2013 definirea obiectivului;<br \/>\n\u2013 stabilirea unei strategii de ac\u021biune \u0219i punerea ei \u00een practic\u0103;<br \/>\n\u2013 monitorizarea rezultatelor;<br \/>\n\u2013 modificarea a ceea ce nu a func\u021bionat, p\u00e2n\u0103 la ob\u021binerea rezultatului dorit.<br \/>\nCeea ce nu am precizat \u00een mod explicit este c\u0103 acela\u0219i model poate \u0219i trebuie aplicat de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd ne propunem s\u0103 realiz\u0103m o comunicare eficient\u0103.<br \/>\nA\u0219adar, \u00een primul r\u00e2nd, trebuie s\u0103 \u021binem cont de faptul c\u0103 principalul motiv al comunic\u0103rii este acela de a determina un comportament specific din partea persoanei care r\u0103spunde. Acest rezultat (\u201estarea dorit\u0103\u201d) ar trebui s\u0103 fie mereu prezent \u00een mintea noastr\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 ne serveasc\u0103 drept punct de referin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i ghid. Altfel, risc\u0103m s\u0103 ne l\u0103s\u0103m prin\u0219i \u00een jocuri psihologice, care ar duce \u2013 \u00een cel mai optimist scenariu \u2013 la absolut nimic.<br \/>\nA\u0219adar, \u00eenainte de a deschide gura, trebuie s\u0103 ne punem c\u00e2teva \u00eentreb\u0103ri:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>1. \u201eCe vreau s\u0103 ob\u021bin?\u201d sau \u201eCare este scopul acestei comunic\u0103ri?\u201d<\/strong><br \/>\nPoate vreau s\u0103 clarific o situa\u021bie, s\u0103 cer ceva, s\u0103 exprim un sentiment, s\u0103 mul\u021bumesc cuiva, s\u0103 farmec, s\u0103 cert, s\u0103 informez, s\u0103 construiesc o rela\u021bie etc.<br \/>\nDac\u0103 ceea ce vrem s\u0103 spunem sau s\u0103 suger\u0103m nu este clar pentru noi \u2013 \u0219i mai ales pentru noi \u00een\u0219ine \u2013 atunci este evident c\u0103 vom avea mari dificult\u0103\u021bi \u00een a transmite mesajul persoanei cu care vorbim.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. \u201eAv\u00e2nd \u00een vedere ceea ce \u0219tiu despre persoana c\u0103reia m\u0103 adresez \u0219i starea ei actual\u0103, care este modalitatea ideal\u0103 de a ob\u021bine ceea ce doresc?\u201d<\/strong><br \/>\nExist\u0103 nenum\u0103rate moduri de a exprima acela\u0219i lucru, dar trebuie s\u0103 \u00eel g\u0103sim pe cel care se potrive\u0219te ascult\u0103torului nostru; altfel, vorbim doar cu noi \u00een\u0219ine. Cine nu a \u00eent\u00e2lnit un medic, un avocat sau un v\u00e2nz\u0103tor care \u00eel cople\u0219e\u0219te cu jargon tehnic, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i pese dac\u0103 \u00eel ascult\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat?<br \/>\nDac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi aminte\u0219ti cum te-ai sim\u021bit, \u00ee\u021bi va fi mai u\u0219or s\u0103 evi\u021bi s\u0103 faci aceast\u0103 gre\u0219eal\u0103.<br \/>\nDe asemenea, este foarte important s\u0103 \u021bii cont de starea lor emo\u021bional\u0103; dac\u0103 cineva este obosit, speriat, distras sau sup\u0103rat, i-ar putea fi foarte greu s\u0103 fie receptiv. \u00cen astfel de cazuri, este mult mai util s\u0103 ne concentr\u0103m pe rela\u021bie \u0219i s\u0103 ascult\u0103m cu empatie, am\u00e2n\u00e2nd ceea ce voiam s\u0103 spunem p\u00e2n\u0103 la un moment mai oportun, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m cu disperare s\u0103 transmitem un mesaj care oricum nu va fi \u00een\u021beles (\u00een acest sens, v\u0103 recomand s\u0103 citi\u021bi cu aten\u021bie excelentele articole ale dr. Rodica Candea).<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. \u201eEste ceea ce inten\u021bionez s\u0103 comunic mai important dec\u00e2t rela\u021bia mea cu aceast\u0103 persoan\u0103?\u201d<\/strong><br \/>\nAdesea nu ne d\u0103m seama c\u00e2t r\u0103u provoc\u0103m prin cuvintele noastre. Fie c\u0103 ne place sau nu, cu to\u021bii suferim de o nesiguran\u021b\u0103 profund\u0103 \u2013 chiar dac\u0103 este mascat\u0103 cu abilitate \u2013 \u0219i reac\u021bion\u0103m automat agresiv sau juc\u0103m rolul \u201evictimei\u201d dac\u0103 cineva ne provoac\u0103 \u00eentr-un fel sau altul. A\u0219adar, mai ales dac\u0103 ai de-a face cu certuri personale, pune-\u021bi des aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare: \u201eMerit\u0103 oare s\u0103-mi distrug rela\u021bia cu cineva doar pentru c\u0103 vreau s\u0103 am dreptate \u00eentr-o chestiune trivial\u0103?\u201d Uneori da, la fel cum uneori poate fi necesar s\u0103 reac\u021bion\u0103m cu cea mai mare fermitate; important este s\u0103 o facem cu deplin\u0103 con\u0219tiin\u021b\u0103, astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 nu ne trezim mai t\u00e2rziu \u00een fa\u021ba unei situa\u021bii pe care nu am inten\u021bionat s\u0103 o cre\u0103m (v\u0103 reamintesc c\u0103 noi suntem responsabili pentru rezultat, nu persoana care ne ascult\u0103).<\/p>\n<p>********************************<br \/>\nEvident, aceste \u00eentreb\u0103ri ne vor ajuta \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd cineva \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 comunice cu noi, mai ales dac\u0103 o face \u00eentr-un mod negativ. Pe baza a ceea ce am spus despre nevoia de schimbare \u0219i despre \u201eatingerile\u201d negative, ar trebui s\u0103 v\u0103 fie clar c\u0103 o persoan\u0103 care se comport\u0103 inadecvat, agresiv sau este nepoliticoas\u0103 (s\u0103 ne amintim c\u0103 orice comportament este comunicare) nu o face ocazional sau pentru c\u0103 are ceva \u00eempotriva voastr\u0103, ci pentru c\u0103 a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat c\u0103 acesta este modul de a-\u0219i ob\u021bine propria por\u021bie de \u201eatingeri\u201d.<br \/>\nReac\u021bion\u00e2nd automat, am fi atra\u0219i imediat \u00eentr-unul dintre jocurile psihologice despre care am discutat \u00een num\u0103rul trecut: fiecare rol declan\u0219eaz\u0103 altul (Persecutor\u2013Victim\u0103, Victim\u0103\u2013Salvator etc.), \u0219i este nevoie de mult autocontrol pentru a nu ne l\u0103sa atra\u0219i \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie negativ\u0103.<br \/>\nDin p\u0103cate, a\u0219a cum am men\u021bionat mai devreme, nu exist\u0103 solu\u021bii simple; cea mai bun\u0103 abordare este s\u0103 ne activ\u0103m starea de \u201eAdult\u201d \u2013 \u00een primul r\u00e2nd, refuz\u00e2nd s\u0103 ini\u021biem o dinamic\u0103 care ne atrage \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie negativ\u0103, \u0219i \u00een al doilea r\u00e2nd, \u00eencerc\u00e2nd s\u0103 ne redirec\u021bion\u0103m comunicarea c\u0103tre unul dintre modelele pozitive pe care le vom examina mai jos.<\/p>\n<h2>Tranzac\u021bii pozitive<\/h2>\n<p>Atunci c\u00e2nd se discut\u0103 despre st\u0103rile Adult, Copil \u0219i P\u0103rinte \u00een diversele lor forme, s-a spus c\u0103 acestea simbolizeaz\u0103, respectiv, comportamentul nostru ra\u021bional (Adult), comportamentul nostru emo\u021bional copil\u0103resc (Copil) \u0219i comportamentul care reflect\u0103 modelele de comportament \u0219i autoritatea p\u0103rin\u021bilor no\u0219tri (P\u0103rinte). Este important s\u0103 re\u021binem c\u0103 fiecare stare este util\u0103 \u0219i serve\u0219te unui scop, cu condi\u021bia s\u0103 fie folosit\u0103 la momentul potrivit. Aceasta \u00eenseamn\u0103, de exemplu, c\u0103 oricine se afl\u0103 \u00eentr-o pozi\u021bie de autoritate (manager, educator, judec\u0103tor) va folosi adesea starea P\u0103rintelui Normativ; pe de alt\u0103 parte, cineva angajat \u00eentr-o munc\u0103 creativ\u0103 va folosi mai frecvent starea Copilului \u2014 ceea ce nu este cazul, s\u0103 zicem, pentru un inginer, care va tinde s\u0103 favorizeze starea Adultului.<br \/>\nPrin urmare, nu este vorba de a favoriza un model comportamental \u00een detrimentul altuia, ci mai degrab\u0103 de a-l folosi pe cel adecvat situa\u021biei \u0219i persoanei cu care vorbe\u0219ti (\u0219i st\u0103rii \u00een care se afl\u0103 aceasta \u00een acel moment). Cheia este s\u0103 te angajezi s\u0103 men\u021bii orice rela\u021bie la nivelul \u201eEu sunt OK \u2013 Tu e\u0219ti OK\u201d, evit\u00e2nd pe c\u00e2t posibil rolurile de Victim\u0103, Persecutor sau Salvator. S\u0103 vedem, a\u0219adar, ce tipuri de rela\u021bii permit acest lucru.<\/p>\n<h3>1. Tranzac\u021bia directiv\u0103<\/h3>\n<p>Aceasta este interac\u021biunea P\u0103rinte Autoritar Pozitiv \u2013 Adult \u0219i este utilizat\u0103 \u00een toate situa\u021biile cotidiene care implic\u0103 darea de ordine \u0219i instruc\u021biuni cu consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2ntul ambelor p\u0103r\u021bi. Este esen\u021bial s\u0103 ne adres\u0103m st\u0103rii de Adult a celeilalte persoane, deoarece numai atunci aceasta va coopera pe deplin pentru a ob\u021bine rezultatele dorite. \u00cen caz contrar, dac\u0103, de exemplu, atitudinea noastr\u0103 este cea a P\u0103rintelui Normativ Negativ, cealalt\u0103 persoan\u0103 va activa automat starea Copilului Rebel sau a Copilului Adaptat, transform\u00e2nd imediat rela\u021bia \u00eentr-o dinamic\u0103 de tip \u201eEu sunt OK \u2013 Tu nu e\u0219ti OK\u201d, ceea ce submineaz\u0103 \u00een mare m\u0103sur\u0103 rezultatul colabor\u0103rii. \u00cen mod similar, acest tip de tranzac\u021bie poate fi utilizat atunci c\u00e2nd trebuie s\u0103 corect\u0103m comportamentul cuiva. Numai prin separarea persoanei de comportament \u0219i prin abordarea laturii sale ra\u021bionale, f\u0103r\u0103 a o desconsidera, putem ob\u021bine cele mai bune rezultate. (Tehnica men\u021binerii unor rela\u021bii bune cu subordona\u021bii este at\u00e2t de important\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t va face obiectul unui articol separat. Evident, cei care ocup\u0103 func\u021bii de conducere se g\u0103sesc adesea \u00een situa\u021bia de a trebui s\u0103-\u0219i mustre \u0219i s\u0103-\u0219i corecteze propriii angaja\u021bi. Dar exist\u0103 o diferen\u021b\u0103 fundamental\u0103 \u00eentre a spune: \u201eE\u0219ti un idiot incompetent\u201d \u0219i a spune: \u201eTu e\u0219ti \u00een regul\u0103, dar \u00een aceast\u0103 situa\u021bie, comportamentul t\u0103u nu a fost eficient; hai s\u0103 lucr\u0103m \u00eempreun\u0103 pentru a g\u0103si cea mai bun\u0103 solu\u021bie pentru viitor.\u201d)<\/p>\n<h3>2. Tranzac\u021bia emo\u021bional\u0103<\/h3>\n<p>Aceasta este tranzac\u021bia afectiv\u0103 p\u0103rinte-copil, prin care exprim\u0103m apreciere, sprijin \u0219i \u00eencurajare fa\u021b\u0103 de ceilal\u021bi. Se folose\u0219te atunci c\u00e2nd l\u0103ud\u0103m pe cineva, facem un compliment pentru o treab\u0103 bine f\u0103cut\u0103 sau recunoa\u0219tem o calitate a unei persoane. (Aten\u021bie! Dac\u0103 lauda nu este sincer\u0103, va fi interpretat\u0103 imediat ca o \u00eencercare de manipulare.) \u00cen mod similar, aceast\u0103 tranzac\u021bie este cea care ne permite s\u0103 sprijinim, s\u0103 ajut\u0103m sau s\u0103 oferim compasiune cuiva care se confrunt\u0103 cu dificult\u0103\u021bi \u2013 fie ele fizice sau psihologice.<br \/>\nEvident, folosirea acestui tip de interac\u021biune atunci c\u00e2nd nu este necesar te va transforma automat \u00eentr-un Salvator.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Tranzac\u021bia informativ\u0103 \u0219i de solicitare<\/h3>\n<p>Aceasta este abordarea clasic\u0103 Adult-Adult, folosit\u0103 ori de c\u00e2te ori este necesar un schimb de informa\u021bii f\u0103r\u0103 conota\u021bii emo\u021bionale. Este utilizat\u0103 \u00een toate situa\u021biile \u00een care oamenii lucreaz\u0103 la un proiect comun \u0219i se bazeaz\u0103 pe o funda\u021bie solid\u0103 de \u00eencredere. Cel mai dificil lucru \u00een acest caz este s\u0103 nu ne l\u0103s\u0103m \u00een\u0219ela\u021bi \u2013 mai ales de noi \u00een\u0219ine \u2013 prin contaminarea st\u0103rilor de spirit despre care am discutat \u00een num\u0103rul din martie, sau prin ascunderea \u00een spatele unei aparente ra\u021bionalit\u0103\u021bi, a prejudec\u0103\u021bilor, a judec\u0103\u021bilor preconcepute \u0219i a cererilor nerezonabile.<br \/>\n(Logica este un instrument ciudat; dac\u0103 nu este folosit\u0103 corect, poate conferi o aparen\u021b\u0103 ra\u021bional\u0103 a ceea ce nu este deloc ra\u021bional, printr-un mecanism pe care teoria psihanalitic\u0103 \u00eel nume\u0219te tocmai \u201era\u021bionalizare\u201d; totu\u0219i, nu pot oferi o solu\u021bie la aceast\u0103 problem\u0103 deoarece, dac\u0103 a\u0219 \u0219ti una, a\u0219 fi un candidat imediat la Premiul Nobel.<br \/>\nTotu\u0219i, de cele mai multe ori ar fi suficient s\u0103 reflect\u0103m sincer asupra motiva\u021biilor \u0219i convingerilor noastre, evit\u00e2nd astfel comiterea unor erori grave).<br \/>\nTransac\u021bia Adult-Adult, a\u0219a cum am men\u021bionat anterior, este, de asemenea, rela\u021bia pe care trebuie s\u0103 o stabilim cu oricine \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 ne implice \u00eentr-unul dintre aceste jocuri psihologice negative.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Transac\u021bia Autentic\u0103<\/h3>\n<p>Aceasta este interac\u021biunea Copil-Copil, \u00een care ne adres\u0103m \u00een mod autentic \u0219i spontan st\u0103rii de Copil a celeilalte persoane pentru a ne exprima sentimentele \u0219i emo\u021biile. Men\u021binut\u0103 la nivelul \u201eEu sunt OK \u2013 Tu e\u0219ti OK\u201d, este f\u0103r\u0103 \u00eendoial\u0103 cea mai bogat\u0103 \u0219i mai \u00eemplinitoare rela\u021bie, una care permite exprimarea liber\u0103 a p\u0103r\u021bii celei mai autentice din noi \u00een\u0219ine \u0219i pe care, \u00een num\u0103rul din martie, am numit-o \u201eIntimitate\u201d sau \u201eApropiere\u201d.<br \/>\nMai mult, acest proces ne permite s\u0103 ne conect\u0103m la latura noastr\u0103 creativ\u0103, astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 putem colabora pentru a g\u0103si solu\u021bii originale la o problem\u0103 (\u00een acest sens, doresc s\u0103 subliniez c\u0103 o abordare ra\u021bional\u0103, de\u0219i indispensabil\u0103 pentru definirea unei probleme, este adesea complet insuficient\u0103 pentru rezolvarea ei. Ideile str\u0103lucite nu s-au n\u0103scut niciodat\u0103 din simplul ra\u021bionament, ci din intui\u021bia creativ\u0103. Iar marile idei care au schimbat lumea sunt tocmai acelea care, dintr-un punct de vedere ra\u021bional, au fost etichetate drept \u201eimposibile\u201d. \u00cen viitor, sper s\u0103 pot vorbi cu voi despre tehnica numit\u0103 \u201ebrainstorming\u201d (cu care sunte\u021bi, desigur, familiariza\u021bi), care pune \u00een practic\u0103 tocmai acest tip de tranzac\u021bie.<\/p>\n<h3>5. Tranzac\u021bia p\u0103rinte-p\u0103rinte<\/h3>\n<p>Aceasta st\u0103 la baza a ceea ce Eric Berne a definit drept \u201eRecreere\u201d \u2014 un fel de conversa\u021bie plin\u0103 de glume automate tipice barurilor sau petrecerilor cocktail, unde subiectele preferate sunt discutate nu pentru a transmite informa\u021bii, ci pentru a construi o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu cealalt\u0103 persoan\u0103. De\u0219i s-ar putea transforma u\u0219or \u00een jocul \u201eNu-i groaznic?\u201d, acest tip de rela\u021bie este at\u00e2t de benefic pentru interac\u021biunile sociale \u00eenc\u00e2t poate fi considerat pe bun\u0103 dreptate printre cele mai pozitive.<\/p>\n<p>Ca de obicei, o ultim\u0103 reflec\u021bie: de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd reu\u0219im s\u0103 men\u021binem o rela\u021bie la nivelul \u201eEu sunt OK \u2013 Tu e\u0219ti OK\u201d, contribuim la a face aceast\u0103 lume un loc pu\u021bin mai pl\u0103cut. Av\u00e2nd \u00een vedere c\u0103 aici tr\u0103im, nu merit\u0103 oare ca to\u021bi s\u0103 depunem un mic efort \u00een aceast\u0103 direc\u021bie?<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00cenainte de a vorbi, care este obiectivul t\u0103u? Descoper\u0103 cum po\u021bi aplica principiile Analizei tranzac\u021bionale pentru a construi rela\u021bii interpersonale eficiente, pozitive \u0219i lipsite de jocuri psihologice.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":561,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1959","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-article","category-uncategorized-ro"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v27.6 (Yoast SEO v27.7) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-premium-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Rela\u021bii interpersonale de succes prin Analiza tranzac\u021bional\u0103 | Bruno Medicina<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"St\u0103p\u00e2ne\u0219te arta comunic\u0103rii eficiente folosind Analiza tranzac\u021bional\u0103. 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